Real Fathers Rise Up!
Real Fathers Rise Up!
You are my Diamond Girl my whole wide world that’s who you are…
You are my moon at night you shine so bright I can see you from a far…
You are my sunshine you brighten my life the apple of my eye…
Don’t want to see you frown, turns my world upside down… this is the reason why…
You’re Daddy’s Girl…
Lyrics “Daddy’s Girl” (2011) –Dr. Jake Golden, IV
Dedicated to my princess Caylah Simone with love
Although placed in an intolerable, in many ways obsolete, undermining, and often degrading position by some in today’s society Fathers, we, still must rise. Even though it seems as if the deck is loaded against us and cages surround us Fathers, we, still must rise. Often times being misunderstood, prejudged, and categorized Fathers, we, still must rise. We must rise because of the little eyes that see us as we are or at least as they want us to be. The little eyes view us as Kings, Super Heroes, Miracle Makers, and Bread Winners. The little eyes see us as strong, intelligent, zealous, and victorious. The little eyes need us to be in our rightful place. And that place is in their lives…
We must thank today’s women for the role of which they have had to fulfill in the lives of our children. Thank them for being in place while we find our rightful place again. Fathers, we are the foundation of which our daughters build trust, love, and admiration. Our relationships with our girls are imperative and must be maintained throughout their lifetime. Although there may be a number of us who feel as if we have already messed up in the area of relationship building it is NEVER too late! It is NEVER too late to call and say I love you and most importantly show them the love and affection they deserve. It is not too late to clean up what we messed up, but it is time to put all the past dealings of broken relationships aside and love our children.
There is no greater love than the love of God and there is no greater love than the love a Father has for his children. Although there is a much-needed focus on men being in the lives of little girls, the same focus is needed within the lives of little boys too.
Quotes offered from the book, 77 Ways to Be a Father after the Separation, which is dedicated to men who struggle to find ways to connect with their children now separated from their families. Even with divorce being at an all time high, a man can also be separated living in the home with his children due to his inability to connect socially. The next five nuggets are shared to help us begin our journey of being a great father.
No.1 Pay Your Child Support
Uh Oh! The phrase that pays literally… Fathers, we show our children we love them by continually providing for them. We have all heard the horror stories of what some women do with the money we provide. Believe it or not even with the abuse it still shows us it takes a village to raise a child and money too!
No. 10 Take Your Daughter on Dates
Remember we set the standard for a number of things in our kids’ lives. Men should be the model for their daughter how things should be done. Don’t let the first date be with the Senior Captain of the Football team.
No. 14 Treat your child’s mother with the utmost respect no matter how you feel.
Your children will mimic what they see you do consistently. Show them love and how to love. Be the example of humility and understanding they need.
No. 32 Don’t miss a ball game or activity they are participating in! No excuses!
If you want to know the value of a man then check what he spends his time doing. Be sure your child knows you will support them. Make time.
Words of affirmation go far! Be the first to shower your baby girl with compliments. Let her hear your love and appreciation.
Love God. Love Family. Love Yourself.
Dr. Jake Golden, IV
Dr. Golden received his Educational Doctorate Degree from Nova Southeastern University in May 2008. He is an alumnus of Kendrick High School, Valdosta State University, Troy University and Nova Southeastern University. He has served in school administration for eight years. He has taught for five years in the Muscogee County School District. Dr. Golden aspires to open his own Christian Academy to instill moral leadership principles into today’s youth. Dr. Golden is also an Adjunct Professor at the University of Phoenix-Columbus campus and Argosy University Online Graduate Program.
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