Growing up, I was Alexus Miller-Wigfall.

Alexus Miller-Wigfall 

All weekend on my Facebook timeline, I saw the article about Miss Alexus Miller-Wigfall, the young lady who got in trouble for prom dress being too revealing.  The administration stated she showed too much cleavage and suspended her.  When I saw it in passing, I said to myself her dress is not impropriate. She is plus size and has large boobs.  It wasn’t until one of my friends re-shared the article asking a simple question about the dress did I become involved.  As I answered her questions on her feed, I began to remember all the pain and shame I felt as a young women growing up plus-size.  I remember grown women telling my mom how to dress me so my boobs wouldn’t show or I wouldn’t tempt their sons and husbands.   I was 12 years old with Double D’s.  How in the HELL was I tempting Your Husband?  I personally know the pain and anguish I felt as a child.  I still feel this pain.  I was judge based off something I couldn’t control.  It is not fair to place our personal hang-ups on other people especially a child.   I am proud of this mom for standing up for her child. She has to make sure her daughter grows up with a healthy self-esteem.  The world is telling her daughter she is not beautiful because her size.  I believe she is teaching her daughter how to carry her head held high because some people are simple minded and will judge her daughter based off her looks.  I know this is what my mom taught me.  She taught me how to carry myself as a respectable young lady, to be kind to others and my dress doesn’t determine my character.  I believe the administrator did more harm than good.  She punished and tarnished a young woman’s character to save teenage boys from lusting.  They are teenage boys when are they not lusting! 

From the Ages 13-15. I had Boobs. My mom bought clothes
to cover them up but my breast still stood out. 

Why as a society do we put the responsibility on women to dress proper to not tempt men?  As a woman can I honestly control a man’s thoughts?  Why if I wear a short skirt to church, I am trying to get the Pastor’s attention or steal somebody’s husband? Lady, I don’t want the Pastor and I don’t want your ugly husband?  I put this dress because I needed to feel good about myself today.  I needed to feel pretty because I’m dealing with my own issues that ain’t got nothing to do with you or your husband.  I came to the altar for prayer because I need God!  If you had your mind focused on worship and not on me, maybe you would realize you need God too.   This is what I wanted to say to those adults back in the day.   I am not old nor do I want to dress like an old lady.  It was hard growing up plus-size and trying to be fashionable and trendy.   Today’s young women have more options but back in the 90’s I didn’t.  There were no role models no plus size fashion shows or plus size sections.  It was all old ladies stuff…no thanks, I’ll just wear men clothes and try to hide my beautiful shape that everyone seems to hate.  I am 37 years old and just now learning how to love my body and shape.  Even now, I deal with traces of low self-esteem.  I am subconscious of what people will say about me in my clothes.  I’ve carried a burden for too long that was placed on me by Grown Folks and it is not my burden to bear. I am not responsible for someone thoughts nor am I responsible for their lust.  I simply buy clothes that look nice on me and I wear them for me.   

Me at my Jr. Prom Yes that is a garter
on my leg 

Prom is one night that everyone wants to feel and be beautiful and this young lady moment was stolen from her by an adult making an issue out of nothing. Although the suspension was overturned the damage is already done.  I just wanted to tell Alexus, She is beautiful and her dress was amazing.   My advice to her is to own your beautiful voluptuous body and to continue to be beautiful inside and out.

Here is the picture please tell me where this dress revealing?

Alexus Miller-Wigfall and her date