Divorcing My FAT Girl Swag

I have always prided myself on being a Beautiful Fabulous Big Girl. I love the skin I’m in & I am never intimidated by a skinny chic. I got my own swag and I love it. I believe because I think I am the SH!T everyone else does too. Now that I have given you this disclaimer let me begin with my story.

Well a few months ago, my five year niece asked me if I was pregnant.  I had to be honest with her and say no.  She responded back to me, “Well you look pregnant”.  After a back and forth conversation about how my belly was just big and I was indeed not pregnant, I had to take reflection on what I look like in her eyesight.  She made me take a second look at my Fat Girl Swag. In the process of loving myself and feeling good about me, I had let my weight get out of hand. I realize I didn’t like being the pregnant woman without being pregnant.  I also came to the conclusion I didn’t truly “love” myself by letting my waistline expand. Through the eyes of a five year old, I knew it was time for me to make a change. 

What was the point of my FAT Girl Swag and high self-esteem if I wasn’t going to be around to see my niece grow up?

In my Aha moment, I realize it was beyond time to divorce my FAT chic. Over the last couple of months, I’ve embraced a healthier lifestyle, self image, and size. I stopped calling myself Big Chic and stopped saying Big Girls do it better.  I started getting excited about my diminishing waistline and acknowledging a skinnier healthier me. (Skinny doesn’t= healthy)

I am delighted about trying new recipes and delicious mouth watering dishes. I actually love cooking and being domesticated. I enjoy my own cooking over restaurants. I have cut down on my sodium intake and seen an immediate change. I love being part of conversations focusing on health.  I am excited by the tremendous support I’m getting from friends and few unlikely people. I am no longer offended by advice given to me by “health nuts” but embrace it and apply it to my life. (I learned how to separate the trash from the treasure) I realize it is not putting me down but useful information to push me towards my goal (I will discuss later the difference between concern vs. bullying)

It has been a hard process, but today I am officially divorcing my FAT Girl Swag! I am signing the papers not paying alimony or child support. I am cutting all ties with my former Fat self. I am marching forward to my smaller healthier self.

Peace Out

Jay’L Harris-

PS. I promote positive self image no matter what size you wear.  I still think Big Girls Do it Better even I don’t say it.  ;p

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